The Decoz Numerology Course
Numerology Course - page 46.
RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY AND NUMEROLOGY.
5 & 7 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, not only is this one of the best combinations for long-lasting relationships, but it is also a merging of archetypes that promises mental and spiritual growth for both of you.
The five and the seven fulfill each other’s needs and desires in many ways, but particularly on the intellectual and spiritual planes. Many famous intellectual and artistic couples shared this combination. This is one of those partnerships that are larger and more promising than the sum of their parts.
John has a quick and flexible mind spiced with a wicked, offbeat sense of humor. The five thinks on its feet and looks right through any attempt to disguise. Among neuro-specialists there is a basic idea that, over the years, the mind tends to think according to established patterns, like water running through canyons. This may be the case with many people, but not with those who have a five in this position of the chart. They will never allow their minds to shelter any repetitive, predictable patterns. Thanks to John’s ability to juggle ideas and concepts, John will always seem younger and remain more playful and quick-witted long past the time other people of John’s age group have slowed down.
Mary’s mind is also powerful. However, Mary’s mental and spiritual faculties operate very differently from John’s. Mary has a dry sense of humor and a more serious mind. Mary seeks answers to life’s major questions and often spends time staring into some inner space, searching for insight and understanding. Probably not closely connected to organized religion, Mary - nonetheless or because of this - has a strong sense of the reality of the God force. For Mary, the mystery of life is not just some unattainable abstract concept - it is a reality. It is a major source of inspiration and a force that influences Mary’s daily life. The seven is the most spiritual of all numbers, but it is rarely found among those who have simply accepted their local religious presence. The seven asks too many questions and takes the spiritual much too serious to take anything at face value.
The only real source of discordance that can appear between the five and the seven, John and Mary, is spiritual in nature. For Mary’s taste, John may seem too flamboyant and superficial at times. By the same token, for John, Mary may become too hung up on certain spiritual concepts. John may even see Mary as somewhat of a zealot. It is difficult for John to understand how someone can become so involved in abstract concepts and philosophies, while Mary may not be able to accept the fact that for John the experience of life is more important than trying to analyze it. However, the seven and the five have such a powerful positive influence on each other that this disagreement rarely appears when a seven and a five form a partnership. John keeps Mary loose and able to enjoy life also from a simpler, more direct perspective, while Mary is able to show John how a deep, serious search of understanding can be immensely gratifying. Frequently, partnerships based on the five and the seven are intellectually and spiritually dynamic and last for a very long time.
5 & 8 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this particular aspect of your charts shows that compatibility can only exist if your roles in the relationship are very different and far apart.
You both have unique qualities, but they rarely overlap. Perhaps the best way to describe the differences between these two numbers is by looking at it from a business perspective instead of a romantic one.
As business partners, John and Mary, you could do very well - as long as you play different roles. The five is an excellent promoter and sales person. John is dynamic and articulate. John thinks fast and finds solutions easily. Because John can see through facades better than most people, it is easy for John to influence others and resolve personality issues. Mary, in turn, is a visionary, has a strong authoritative presence, and can overcome obstacles because the eye of an eight is always sharply focused on a goal set somewhere in the future - a goal that is to be met no matter what.
Mary is the executive, John the marketing expert. Very different qualities that can work well together if you just remember that a promoter and sales person should not try to run a company, and that an executive officer should not try to tell a marketing expert how to sell. So, to stay away from problems, don’t try to do your partner’s job.
In a romantic relationship of a five and an eight, John and Mary, a similar picture is visible. As long as you don’t try to influence each other, as long as you don’t try to tell your partner how to behave or what to consider a priority, everything is fine. Make a stab at changing your partner and trouble will certainly be the result.
Other issues that often appear between the five and the eight have to do with Mary’s somewhat authoritative personality and John’s social nature. As far as John is concerned, there will never be room for any kind of authority, John is not a subordinate by nature. For Mary, the fact that John is a social person who can become quite involved with one or more friends can be a source of envy, even jealousy.
John and Mary, the key to a successful relationship with this particular combination is space and freedom. Your best hope to making your relationship pleasant and long lasting is by keeping some distance within your day-to-day life, your lifestyles, your expectations, your routines.
5 & 9 Compatibility (and vice versa)
There is very little the five and the nine have in common, John and Mary. In fact, there is no common ground at all. Imagine a social event where all the participants are pure archetypes based on the personalities of the cardinal numbers, you will never see the five and the nine huddled together, laughing and talking and sharing jokes. Like oil and water, the five and the nine won’t mix. They are so far apart that they would have a hard time keeping a conversation going, and an even harder time enjoying it - if at all possible...
John and Mary, the numbers found in this particular aspect of the chart are not responsible for the attraction between you. The fact that you have a relationship indicates strong compatibilities in other areas of the chart.
You will find that other numbers - as described elsewhere in this report - sustain your relationship. John, your adventurous, dynamic, and freedom-loving spirit reflected in this part of your chart can be annoying and perceived as irresponsible by Mary. Mary, your idealism, your sense of duty and responsibility to mankind, your desire to “make a difference” in this world, appear superficial to that part of John that is represented by this five.
Although there is not much to be done about this lack of compatibility, the relationship between a five and a nine is far from doomed. Other aspects of your personalities are obviously strongly connected and compatible, otherwise there would not be a relationship at all. So, how can you minimize the lack of compatibility between the five and the nine in this aspect of the chart?
For Mary, it is important to know that idealism, self-righteousness, duty and responsibility will only impress John if you don’t take credit for your actions. John distrusts idealism but admires results. Without limiting yourself Mary, you will have to accept the fact that you are on your own when it comes to following your heart in these areas.
Similarly, John, in Mary’s eyes you sometimes appear shallow and selfish, not because you are shallow and selfish, but because Mary connects selflessness and inspired actions with depth and moral strength.
John and Mary, you will have to compromise and be diplomatic when it comes to these issues and explore your number combination in other aspects of the chart that certainly have sustained your relationship.
6 & 6 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, as a rule of thumb, relationships fare better when the core numbers found in the same location in a chart are not the same. An exception is to this rule of thumb is the six, considered the most harmonious of all, the most loving and committed of all numbers, and rightly so!
John and Mary, you both commit strongly to a romantic relationship. There is nothing you want more than to make the other person happy, to take care of and comfort your partner. You are dedicated to the point of being willing to sacrifice much of your own needs and desires towards this commitment.
You love kids, family, friends, and your local community. Your need to distribute love and comfort is such that, most probably, you will both get involved in something related to healing, teaching, counseling, or the arts.
John and Mary, you must keep in mind that other numbers also play an important role in your relationship. However, even if some of those numbers are considered incompatible and bring in any negative influences, such influences will be at least in part diluted by the strongly compatible relationship found in this aspect of your charts.
There are instances, though, when the energy of the six may become overbearing, causing the relationship to shift from committed to co-dependent. This may happen, John and Mary, if you allow your extremely protective feelings towards each other to cloud your judgment. Therefore, it is important that you maintain your individuality and your ability to find happiness and contentment in your own life without depending on your partner or anyone else.
Jealousy is another possible danger you should guard against. The same protective feelings mentioned earlier, if out of control, can make one possessive, giving rise to jealousy and distrust; two human traits that have caused so much harm among people who, under normal circumstances, have no reason to experience such negative thoughts and feelings. Therefore, if you catch yourself doubting your partner’s faith with no real cause, step back and look at the situation as objective as possible.
John and Mary, the six found in this part of your chart is a powerful asset to the relationship. It is a number that brings harmony and love to all other numbers. Make good use of this blessing and you will live a beautiful romance while distributing love and care not only to your own family but to your friends and community as well.
6 & 7 Compatibility (and vice versa)
A strange and not very common combination, the six and the seven have a kind of love-hate relationship. While the six is strongly committed and motivated by emotions and romance, the seven is an intellectual and somewhat secretive and distant energy. On one side, John demands physical and emotional connection; on the other, Mary relies more on an intellectual bond. This has nothing to do with love in its purest form, since no number is more capable of loving than any other number. What happens is that each number expresses love in a different way. John’s six in this part of the chart is more influenced by feelings and emotions and depends on expressions of love to feel secure and comfortable in the relationship. Mary’s seven is more independent and enables Mary to feel safe and secure in the relationship even when there is less sharing of emotions.
Unless this fundamental difference is well understood and accepted, it can become a problem in your relationship. John may, at times, feel that Mary is cold and aloof, as Mary needs a certain amount of distance, quiet contemplation, daydreaming, an opportunity to be alone with the Self - and when Mary is in that state of mind, even John’s loving attention is experienced as an annoying disruption.
As a result, it is not uncommon for this combination to develop a relationship that can cause much unhappiness - and yet be unbreakable. Usually, this paradoxical situation is quite obvious to those around you - and completely unrecognized by you. Everyone around you will wonder why you stay together when you seem so different on all fronts.
Of course, John and Mary, the six and the seven also allow for happy, long-lasting relationships. The key is simply to recognize the fundamental difference in the way you express your love - and you are both capable of that. John has to realize that even when Mary seems distant and cold, Mary’s love is not diminished in any way. And Mary may have to accept the fact that John has to confirm the relationship regularly and does so by reaching out and demanding attention.
6 & 8 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, the six and the eight are very compatible. You are both practical and goal-oriented people who are not afraid of responsibility. However, there are big differences in the way the six and the eight view responsibility, and even bigger differences in the way they pursue their respective goals.
John’s sense of responsibility is strongly focused on family and friends. John will be hesitant to do anything that could endanger the comfort and lifestyle of those John is committed to. Mary’s sense of responsibility is committed to goals and dreams - their fulfillment is Mary’s priority. Where John will be very reluctant to take risks that might reflect on those John cares about, Mary will not hesitate to take certain carefully calculated risks because Mary feels that, if those goals are met, the lives of everyone around will improve. John is capable of working for a long time to reach a goal, but John is much more grounded, John will hesitate to step away from the beaten path. Mary has a sense of business and is a visionary with a practical, can-do mentality.
Interestingly, the six-and-eight combination is excellent for business partnerships. The six keeps a reign on the dreams and visions of the eight. In turn, the eight can inspire the six to aim higher and take advantage of the opportunities lying ahead. Without an eight to inspire a six, the six will likely remain confined to small dreams requiring little or no risks. Without the grounded realism of the six, an eight often gets lost between the vision and the goal. In a romantic relationship, John and Mary, the numbers found in this part of the chart similarly play off each other’s strengths in ways that can be very good for the relationship.
Problems can arise when one partner tries to dominate the other, which has been known to happen between a six and an eight. John, your tendency to take on any burden, your willingness to sacrifice, and your need to feel secure in a relationship, can make you a victim to the somewhat authoritarian and demanding nature of Mary’s eight. Sometimes, the opposite happens, and the inherit talent of John’s six to make others feel guilty simply by showing how much John is willing to do for them can put a real damper on Mary’s potentially powerful and focused energy.
John and Mary, this aspect of your charts is somewhat similar to reaching a fork in the road. You have a choice between enriching and enhancing each other’s strengths and talents, or frustrating your partner’s opportunities. The key to maintain a balanced relationship is not to try to dominate each other.
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