Numerology Course - page 42.
ABOUT RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY IN NUMEROLOGY.
2 & 2 Compatibility (and vice versa)
This aspect of the chart reveals both of you to have a sensitive, vulnerable side. Sometimes that is favorable, other times it prevents issues from getting resolved, like when you step around the issue carefully, afraid to hurt the other. This may cause issues to fester and start eating at the foundation of your relationship. Therefore, it is important not to walk away from the problems because you don’t want to rock the boat. It is best to face them up-front!
John and Mary, you both have a healthy respect for the power of feelings and emotions, but you have to guard against avoiding confrontations altogether. Sometimes, a confrontation is necessary to clear the air and resolve the problems, in other words, “to send the phantoms away”.
As two people who feel and experience emotions strongly, you are both more vulnerable to criticism. This is something you may have to consciously work on. Sometimes, as I mentioned, you will avoid addressing an issue. Other times, especially when those unresolved issues cause resentments, you, like boxers, may be tempted to lash out to your partner with a "below-the-belt" criticism, revealing your anger and resentment in a way that can be very harmful for the relationship. Even more devastating, it can shut the door to any chance you might have had to resolve the underlying problem. Frequent instances of that behavior might undermine your relationship and, sticking to the paraphrase, a knock-out would not be totally impossible.
As you can see, although couples keep looking for things they may have in common, in this aspect of the chart, the fact that you both have a two does not translate into an advantage. On the positive side, you can relate to each other’s emotional experiences. On the negative side, instead of one person balancing the other, you may, instead, enhance a negative experience until perspective is lost and all that remains is pain and anger.
John and Mary, you both have a tendency to use the occasional white lie to circumvent what you perceive as dangerous ground. This is not always a bad thing. However, unless other numbers in your chart support your ability and your willingness to grab the bull by the horn when tact and diplomacy are no longer suitable, this avoiding of difficult subjects can have the effect of pushing each other away. You start creating a world of your own, slowly pushing your partner away. If you have the kind of relationship where the partners live their own life quite happily, there is no problem. However, you are both people of the heart and that pretty much makes that kind of lifestyle impossible.
The key to maintaining a healthy and stable relationship when both partners have a two in this part of the chart is to recognize the need for planned pow-wows. Whenever an issue needs to be handled, discuss it openly and frankly, but never guided by impulse and emotions of the moment. Instead, tell your partner that something is bothering you and you want to talk about it. Then, build up a setting: make a cup of coffee, sit down around the table, and emphasize to your partner that you know first and foremost that your love is strong and enduring, and that, in order to keep it strong, you have to bite the bullet and talk about it. In such a setting, you can discuss the situation intelligently, without getting too emotional and without letting anger and irritation control the discussion.
2 & 3 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John, as a number two, you are not very well equipped to deal with criticism and confrontations - - you are vulnerable and can hold a grudge. On the other hand, Mary, as a number three, has an in-born ability to let negative criticisms bounce off without letting them do much damage. That does not mean that Mary can't be hurt, but simply that Mary does not allow little things to spoil the experience. And that is exactly where a possible danger exists. A bit tactless at times, Mary can occasionally put the foot in the mouth, without realizing that this has a negative effect on John. However, when “little things” grow into big emotional issues in which even Mary is strongly affected, Mary will respond passionately. Mary may even lose sight of the beauty and love that is the foundation of your relationship, letting anger and sharp verbal skills do considerable damage. John will respond, perhaps with a few angry words, but, more likely, by withdrawing. Thus, a hard kernel of resentment wrapped up in confusion and sometimes hidden from view for a long time - since John doesn't think too clearly when emotions are in play and tends to walk away from confrontations - may eventually become a source of such discontent that it will take everything Mary has to offer to bring John back.
On a more positive note, the combination of 2 and 3 is a very passionate and strong one. So, as long as Mary keeps verbal impulses under control, and John has enough self-confidence to handle occasional criticisms, the relationship has every chance of bringing lots of love and joy to your life.
Often, the combination two and three in this aspect of the chart also enhances each other's creative juices. The sense of harmony and rhythm connected to the two merges beautifully with the powers of expression so native to the three. Your relationship is strengthened enormously by sharing creative interests, and that is where you should concentrate your efforts.
Keep in mind that beauty and love lie at the bottom of your relationship, and that it is in your own hands to gradually destroy or make them stronger day after day. Discuss any issues - open and frank, but also with tact and sensitivity - as they come up.
2 & 4 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, the two and four combination found in this part of the chart is a powerful asset in your relationship. The tact, sensitivity, intuition and innate ability to recognize the more subtle things in life that John brings to the table complement Mary's grounded and practical perspective. It is a combination of extremes that brings balance to the relationship and the partners are not only strengthened but also complemented by each other, just like mortar and brick, energy and matter, earth and sky. You are lucky to make up one of the best possible combinations.
However, since perfection is not easy - if not impossible - to find, your relationship is not free from danger. Precisely because the two numbers are so opposite, there can, at times, be a lack of understanding. John and Mary, the two and four may very well be in large part responsible for the initial attraction that brought the two of you together. Mutual admiration, a need to draw into your life what you subconsciously knew to be lacking. Your coming together is like a poor man winning the lotto, or a rich man discovering humility. No doubt, that is a most fortunate, positive fact, but, at the same time, what do you do with such a beautiful alien force once it enters your life? Do you know how to make it part of your life without making it lose its shine? In other words, Mary doesn't always relate to John's strong emotional consciousness. On the other hand, John can be annoyed when Mary’s practical view of life overshadows idealism. This can be a cause of trouble you must be on the alert for and prepared to deal with. But, when all is said and done - and this is the key to any healthy, stable and enjoyable relationship - this occasional lack of understanding becomes a minor infraction on an otherwise perfect balance of human qualities.
So, just look at your differences as the force that brings balance to your relationship, and carefully work on them.
Although this is only one aspect of your charts, it is so strong that it will take a powerful storm to blow this relationship off its foundation.
2 & 5 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this aspect of the chart requires some special attention since, as a rule of thumb, the two and the five found in the same part of the chart make for short-lived relationships. They simply do not understand each other. In fact, they do not really like each other.
The fact that you have a relationship means that other numbers are making up for the usual discordance that prevails between these two numbers. However, it is important to emphasize that the two and the five are only disharmonious when they are found in the same location in the chart. This disharmony does not exist when they are not in the same location. For example, a 2 Life Path can be quite harmonious with a 5 Heart's Desire.
That being said, we should concentrate on where the discordance comes from and how it can be deflected and rendered harmless.
To do that, let’s think of John as water and Mary as fire. In a controlled environment, each of them has a purpose that can be used to benefit the other. But, when they occupy the same space, one is going to destroy the other. The fire makes the water evaporate, or the water will kill the fire.
The lesson here is simple. Don't get in each other's way.
Yours can be a strong, lifelong relationship, if you are both willing to accept the other person as is. So, don’t ever try to change your partner in any way and make every effort to lead your respective lives in as independent environments as possible so that your individual purposes can be beneficial and advantageous to the other.
John understands and respects the world of emotions, feelings, and intuitions and is fully aware of the fact that those are, in a very real sense, the bottom line. This is where life pays its dividends. No matter what else is happening in your life, payment comes in "how you feel”, your happiness, your contentment as a human being.
Mary relates to the world of dynamic action, impulsive decisions, and risky adventures. Keeping in perspective that this is only one aspect of the chart, Mary thrives on energies causing motion, causing changes, causing excitement. And Mary will not be slowed down by something as banal as being careful, or by the possibility that someone might not be comfortable with the kind of turmoil Mary generates.
John and Mary, do not forget that other numbers play in your relationship. Therefore, this particular aspect of the chart can be largely offset if you succeed in maintaining some distance, a fairly practical separation of lifestyle and environment. You must keep in mind that your combination of numbers requires that your relationship be one of sharing and caring - as in a community setting, a community of two - rather than a relationship where everything is merged and experienced together.
2 & 6 Compatibility (and vice versa)
Two and six are considered the most loving numbers of all. However, their love expresses itself in different ways. John, your two, in this part of the chart, reveals sensitivity, awareness of emotional forces in yourself and others, and an ability to recognize the subtle and often hidden motives in others. Mary, your six points to a powerful urge to care and protect, to shelter those you love and to comfort them. In fact, one of the few traits a six has to guard for is not to smother others with its love.
John and Mary, this combination forms a strong foundation for any relationship, but in particular for a romantic one. You both love easily and without holding back. You are not afraid to reveal your feelings. However, it is only in the strength of their love and their need for sharing and giving that these two numbers overlap. In many other respects, they are very different and, sometimes, even opposite. John, your love is one of feelings and emotions driven by the need for companionship, security, and comfort. It is intuitively aware of the fragile nature of life and therefore has a tendency to be somewhat needy and insecure. A negative expression of this insecurity is jealousy, perhaps even towards people Mary may have a business or friendship relation with. If Mary gives too much time and attention to someone else, John may have some difficulty in accepting that. Mary, on the other hand, can be oblivious to the subtle signs that something is brewing underneath the surface. Mary feels comfortable in a romantic relationship and does not share this kind of insecurity.
Although Mary is not particularly afraid of romantic competition, Mary’s demons also show up in this relationship. Where John requires attention and emotional contact to feel comfortable, Mary may tend to spread attention around in search of other people’s approval and gratitude. Like a parent with grown children, Mary reaches out to take care of, and comfort others, as a way to fill a space that can’t be filled. By doing so, Mary may forget who and what is really important, a trait typical to the six.
More often than not, neither the occasional jealousy and envy of the two, nor the aimless mothering of the six, can do more than put a dent in this relationship. The two and the six are very compatible and the likelihood of a crash is smaller than in most other number combinations.
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