Numerology Course - page 43.
RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY IN NUMEROLOGY.
2 & 7 Compatibility (and vice versa)
In this combination of numbers, intuition meets intelligence, sensitivity meets clinical research, the heart meets the mind. It would be a challenge to find two more different archetypes than this. John and Mary, yours is a unique relationship. Rarely do two such different numbers express even the slightest bit of interest in each other. But, when they do, the partnership is worth every effort. Almost certainly, you met under strange circumstances, perhaps a situation where you were both out of your usual environment, and, most likely, John reached out to Mary.
Once these two completely different numbers come close enough, the result is often an exchange of energy that welds the relationship for life.
The dangers and pitfalls possible in this combination are generally experienced right at the beginning of the relationship. They are numerous and include the inability to relate to the other person’s way of thinking, feeling, and expressing. John’s love is soft and gentle, idealistic and romantic, emotional and innocently childlike. Mary’s love is like a precious jewel; it requires a lot to earn it. Wisdom and knowledge, spiritual understanding and an ageless quality strengthen Mary’s love. At the onset of the relationship, this was the big hurdle to overcome. Mary does not trust love that comes so easily. On the other hand, John simply cannot understand why someone would not just respond. After all, what is more natural than love?
Sometimes, a relationship with this combination of numbers occurs after the partners have known each other for many years, when levels of trust and understanding have been achieved before either one of them thought about romance. So, a romance born on such solid foundations and balanced by pure emotions on one side and wisdom and spiritual understanding on the other can’t but succeed.
So, be that as it may, once other number combinations bring these two opposite archetypes together into this unique relationship, it takes a hurricane to destroy their bond.
2 & 8 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John is drawn to Mary in part because Mary has great inner strength and the kind of personal power that reveals the possibility of worldly success. Capable and goal-oriented, Mary is a force to be reckoned with.
Mary is attracted to John largely because Mary recognizes in John an emotional and spiritual wealth that may well have remained, at least to some extent, dormant in the life of Mary. John lives and experiences life on many levels. John knows the heart and the power of emotions. When brought together, the two and the eight’s individual innate qualities can produce quite a balanced relationship.
This is a combination with potential to survive for years and years. However, an important detail you both must be attentive to is that the relation between a two and an eight is often based on illusions, and when such illusions fall apart, the relationship may crash.
The two sees strength, and thinks it will always be there. The eight sees romance and the subtle powers of the heart, and thinks it will last forever. Neither does, of course. Strength eventually dissipates. The heart slowly loses interest.
However, that does not mean this relationship doesn’t stand a chance. It certainly does. And the key to make it a pleasant, long lasting relationship is to recognize each other for what you are, beyond the obvious. John must learn to love not only Mary’s strength and capabilities but also Mary’s weaknesses. It is important that John can love Mary as a whole human being. And Mary, in turn, must learn to love not only the romantic presence, the passion of the heart Mary craves in John, but John as a whole human being.
Few combinations tend to give birth to relationships based on illusions as often as do the two and the eight. But John and Mary, don’t forget that this is just one aspect of the chart. You both have many other qualities to be brought to the surface, exercised and explored to your mutual benefit. Just keep that in mind, unite your respective strengths and move on to turn yours into a most pleasant, rewarding and long lasting relationship.
2 & 9 Compatibility (and vice versa)
Whereas John is open and easy going in matters of the heart, Mary is more careful and perhaps distant. In fact, Mary knows that it is in part this care, this need to maintain a safe distance, that has caused passed relationships to crash. It is not easy for Mary to be deeply involved in a relationship and trust that it is safe to act un-inhibited, unselfconsciously. On the other hand, it is natural for John to respond to the moment without first having to weigh possible consequences. John can be immediate, responsive and fearless like a child and, just like a child, feel totally safe.
Always seeking the shelter of the inner world, Mary needs to learn to let go, to surrender to the heart, if this relationship is to endure and grow.
You can give love and friendship left and right, Mary, there is no shortage of love in you. On the contrary. The number nine is self-sacrificing and generous to a fault. Maybe that is the way you release all the love in you. A problem exists only when this love comes too close to the inner Mary. As long as there is some distance, you feel safe. The moment someone attempts to step into your inner world, you have a tendency to close the doors.
John, you are very different. You will certainly invite Mary to share even the deepest moments, without inhibition. But when Mary backs away from that, John, you may well respond with confusion, jealousy and resentment.
As you may have realized by now, the two and the nine don’t get along too well. Although both are caring, loving numbers, the idealistic nine gives to the world and to strangers, while a much more emotionally involved two focuses on one person as the object of its love.
Interestingly, the two and the nine can form powerful alliances in other circumstances, particularly in business. Between the two of them, they can negotiate and influence just about anyone or anything. It is in matters of the heart that their needs and desires are not very compatible.
All this can be countered, albeit with some effort. Mary, you would help yourself and John if you could “loosen up” a bit. Relax the constant vigilance and allow yourself to be more responsive to the moment.
John, you should try to understand that Mary’s need for some distance doesn’t mean the love is not real, or not as strong as yours. If you are able to keep that in mind, you’ll be able to build a peaceful, enjoyable relationship. A relationship, by the way, that can also be very prosperous if you are smart enough to take advantage of the powerful alliances the two and the nine allow for, especially in the business world.
3 & 3 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, you both have the creative, happy-go-lucky three in this part of the chart, which indicates lively communications. You inspire and motivate each other in a life-enforcing environment. You joke easily, and, most importantly, you laugh a lot at each other’s jokes. You know how to please each other, so you are able to enjoy each other’s company while moving around in a very active, dynamic social life. On the surface, there is little negative to say about this combination.
However, a little deeper look reveals that, unless you consciously work on it, this same happy-go-lucky environment you share can turn against you and become the root of some persistent problems. You both have a tendency to skim over the rough spots, emotionally and spiritually. This aspect of the chart reflects a strong preference to looking towards the sun without ever considering the shadows you throw behind you. Remember, though, that the sun does not shine throughout the year. No matter one’s preferences, springs, summers, autumns and winters will certainly come - much to our advantage, each with its respective charm and beauty. All one has to do is to be prepared.
Other much more serious numbers also play in your chart. Therefore, keep in mind that the influence of the three is relative - - and should be understood as such. For a love relationship to have any chance of long-term happiness, you sometimes have to face the emotional turmoil that is, inevitably, part of everyone’s life. So, you should watch for subtle signs indicating that something might be bothering your partner because, although you are both excellent communicators, you don’t use that same talent to express your deeper, private, feelings. Always be attentive and, once you detect something, let’s say, different or strange - even if your partner insists on putting on that happy-go-lucky attitude - see that you two have a deeper, open and frank talk to clear the air.
Another result of this combination, John and Mary, is that sometimes fun and joy become too high a priority, overshadowing such important issues as responsibility and duty. The number three is scattered, unfocused and impulsive, all necessary traits for anyone involved in creative endeavors. It allows for daydreaming, it provides the perfect environment for the mind to wander around in search of new territories, and that is what makes one creative. But, if they don’t come in the proper doses, those same traits can work against us. So, make sure you don’t loose sight of the need for effort and discipline to maintain a foundation of material security that will allow you to experience the fun and joy so necessary to the happiness of both of you.
As you may recognize, the fact that both of you have a three in this aspect of the chart does not mean that you have incompatible personalities. The danger lies in the fact that the less desirable side effects of the three may become enhanced if you don’t guard against them.
3 & 4 Compatibility (and vice versa)
This is both a very promising as well as a very difficult combination. John reveals a fun-loving, optimistic side, a creative, playful, perhaps even childlike nature. John demonstrates to have faith in life and is confident that things will work out, no matter what. In addition, John has a natural, intuitive talent to go with the flow and escape pitfalls almost effortlessly. Mary, on the other hand, is much more grounded, practical, and has a hands-on approach to life. Mary feels that discipline and focus, responsibility, dependability and duty are the requirements to create a life of comfort and contentment. From one perspective, this makes for a nicely balanced relationship. John’s approach works for John. Mary has seen the fruits of effort and discipline and knows there is safety in having at least some control. As long as life doesn’t throw a monkey wrench in your situation, this can be a harmonious, very satisfying relationship.
But when life becomes a challenge, when problems - especially practical, material, worldly problems - come up, John and Mary, this combination of three and four is one of the least prepared to deal with it. John, you may well start resenting Mary for taking such a hard, grab-the-bull-by-the-horns approach, since Mary is not the type of person who backs away and watches things fall apart. In addition, it is important that you bear in mind that we are talking about problems that did not arise between you, from your relationship, but from outside, issues like a shortage of money, the loss of a job, an expensive illness, or some other unfortunate shift.
Mary will be tempted to look at John and question the amount of effort and sacrifice John is investing during this difficult time. Blame will feed resentment and anger, and soon, instead of forming a combined front to overcome the obstacle, you will turn against each other.
When that happens, John and Mary, you will need to step back and realize that, although you may not understand what motivates your partner to respond so differently from what you believe is the correct and required approach, you should not judge. John, you may not believe that Mary makes any sense. You may well feel that all that effort is misdirected, perhaps even detrimental to a positive outcome, but Mary needs that effort. Mary needs to feel that there is some control.
On the other hand, Mary may blame John for not doing enough, which may be true. On the surface, John may seem to be backing away from the problem. John does not focus on the issue itself as much as on whatever is needed to make it go away, or, at least, to make it bearable. John will bring in the optimism and the motivation to go on. John will point to the light at the end of the tunnel, no matter how tiny or seemingly far away, and when everyone else is ready to give up, John will bring in the much needed energy and get you back on your feet. John is invaluable during such a time. And that, too, takes effort.
So, just remember that, although difficult, yours is also a very promising combination, and the key to making the most of it lies on not trying to judge each other, but on combining your many individual qualities.
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