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This is an excellent combination, but because the partners are so compatible, they sometimes enhance each other’s less desirable traits as well.

John is upbeat, expressive, creative and playful. However, John is not always focused and the results of John’s productivity are not always useful. Mary generates a similar, sometimes restless energy. Mary, though, is more directed towards social activities, interacting with other people. Mary’s life style is dynamic and, if the decision is in Mary’s hand alone, this life style will involve lots of travel. If you happen to share a home, John and Mary, you will have little trouble creating a living environment and a life style suitable to both.

You both communicate well. Your verbal abilities make you a popular couple. In fact, one of the things that could trip you up is the popularity and easy social interacting, since you both - but Mary in particular - may have a tendency to become jealous of your partner. You both thrive on playing center stage, you both want to be in the spotlight, and this may cause an uncomfortable competitive atmosphere.

John, Mary can, at times, say things on the spur of the moment that are hurtful or reveal an underlying problem. You would do well reading between the lines, because, whatever it is, Mary probably won’t spell it out. Similarly, John likes to skim over the deeper issues in life, especially those in the emotional sphere. Mary needs to be aware that, even after being close to John for many years, much about John will never be revealed. This shows that, if you are not careful, the two of you could be experiencing deep inner turmoil, and your partner might not be aware of it.

The three and the five get along very well. John likes the way Mary acts and talks. Mary has a wonderful time with John’s wacky sense of humor and upbeat nature. It is a good combination that can last a lifetime. If problems arise and reach the kind of proportions that put this relationship in jeopardy, it is usually because the partners didn’t listen carefully to each other. Both the three and the five have a tendency to keep emotional problems on the back shelf instead of dealing with them. Then, once the turbulence reaches the surface, it is too late and the end comes swift and final. John and Mary, you have to pay attention to each other. Watch for subtle signs of discomfort or anger, and deal with it immediately in an open, direct and compassionately way. That is the key to sharing an inspiring, creative, lively, happy life.

3  & 6  Compatibility (and vice versa)

You make up a creative couple, where John has the kind of creativity and sense of humor everybody loves and Mary the warmth and self-sacrificing love for the friends and family members that so easily wins hearts over. You are probably a popular couple, with an active social life and a large circle of friends.

Mary has the innate ability to draw from others the kind of loyalty and devotion that lasts a lifetime. The number six is often called the motherhood-, or fatherhood, number. Healing and comforting is second nature to Mary, who will spread it around indiscriminately.

John, the number three is also a very giving and popular number, more playful and creative, but less grounded and disciplined. Your energy is less directed and more impulsive. You don’t have a lot of patience dealing with emotional issues. So, you can be a great shoulder for people to cry on, as long as the crying doesn’t last for more than about two minutes, probably because your usually optimistic and lighthearted nature tends to expect from others the same elastic response to difficult times, which is so much part of your make up. Though invaluable, John, the energy you bring in is sometimes not enough. The six makes Mary all heart. Mary feels very strongly and very deeply, which can also cause Mary to be more affected by matters of the heart than you feel sensible.

Surprisingly, however, the most common pitfall when a three and a six are found in this part of the chart is not the lack of emotional involvement native to the three, but the possibly excessive emotional bonds experienced by the six. Mary, you have a tendency to become so involved with the well being of those you love that they may start feeling smothered. You want to do everything for everybody, and John can become disenchanted with that, since John needs space and freedom, and does not like to be guided and protected by anyone else.

Mary, it is important that you don’t try to take John under your wings, thereby making John feel that there is no room to move or air enough to breathe.

3  & 7  Compatibility (and vice versa)

This combination of numbers in this part of the chart is particularly interesting. John and Mary, the different natures of the three and seven make for a relationship that either lasts for about two weeks before going up in flames, or remains exciting and powerful for a lifetime. If your relationship has existed for quite some time and can be considered stable, you may well be soul mates for life. If the relationship started recently and has already experienced considerable ups and downs, you should be prepared to let go. It is also quite common for this combination to turn from romance into deep friendship immediately after a romantic fall-out.

John has a restless, energetic, unconventional mind that happily explores the boundaries of creativity and originality. Like a kaleidoscope, the mind of the three changes colors and shapes and enchants those around it. Mary has a much more serious, but no less unconventional way of looking at life. Mary is an untiring seeker of truth and understanding. Mary gets great satisfaction out of quiet moments of contemplation and soul searching. In fact, Mary thrives on the clarity and realizations that come from such moments and from moments of spiritual enlightenment, which are common to those found with the seven in this part of the chart.

As you can see, you have very different approaches in the way you think. But, on the other hand, you have in common the fact that you both are unconventional and not afraid to wander off the beaten path. Although you have different needs and you find your happiness in very different ways, such ways are not incompatible. John and Mary, it is precisely your uniquely different intellects that make this relationship lively and interesting. You complement each other. You give each other something you would not be able to give yourself. John brings sunshine and an intuitive faith to Mary, while Mary offers John a taste of the beauty found in exploring the depths of life itself. Like the sun and the moon, you supply light and comfort. Although on opposite ends of the spectrum in some ways, you bring light and comfort to each other’s life and, as long as you don’t compete for each other’s space, you can live in great harmony.

3  & 8  Compatibility (and vice versa)

John and Mary, the three and the eight affect one in very different ways. So, when these two numbers appear together in this part of the chart, the couples are compatible in some areas, incompatible in others. John brings in the creative, somewhat scattered, but yet inspiring and uplifting energy. Mary is more ambitious, goal-oriented and focused. You are both energetic and capable of turning dreams into reality, even though with different approaches. Quite often, this combination is seen between business partners, or long-time friends who start a business together. In that environment, John would be the initial creative source, while Mary would be the visionary. Together, you could do very well.

You are also both good communicators. John has the ability to clarify an issue with a sense of humor and pinpoint precision. Mary takes a more practical approach by simply grabbing the bull by the horns.

In many ways, John and Mary, you complement each other and are quite compatible, as revealed in this part of the chart. But, just like in any other number combination, there are areas where problems may arise.

Mary is ambitious, practical and capable of sustained effort for a long period of time in order to reach a goal. John also has the energy and drive needed to make things happen, but John may drop a project when it is no longer interesting or when other projects become more important. This can be upsetting to Mary, who feels that a commitment, such as a set goal, should be honored at any rate - - anything less is unacceptable to Mary.

John, on the other hand, will sometimes feel that Mary’s priorities are too much directed to Mary’s own needs and expectations. Mary can be quite demanding, while John is more easy-going - - if something doesn’t work out, oh well, let’s try something else. Mary doesn’t accept that and feels that the whole purpose of setting a goal is to overcome the obstacles one is bound to encounter.

In the end, the issue comes down to respect. The three and the eight have such different views as to what is important in life that, unless they learn to respect each other’s needs and expectations, the relationship will not last long. However, more often than not, the three and the eight get along quite well.

3  & 9  Compatibility (and vice versa)

This aspect of the chart, John and Mary, reflects excellent compatibility between the two of you. The three and the nine can form a strong unity, one that often lasts for a very long time - if not forever.

They represent archetypes that are almost mythical in their romantic bond. Lots of stories of endless patience and self-sacrifice could be told about this unity. And what makes this so surprising is the fact that this is possible even though both numbers are considered self-centered, even egocentric at times.

John and Mary, you both have powerful imaginations and intense inner lives, and that makes the two of you creative, albeit in very different ways. John has a unique, somewhat offbeat originality, and expects life to be full of unexpected events and turns. Mary, in turn, likes to manipulate the environment until everything is harmonious. Mary has the talent to combine colors and materials to create beauty in a disciplined manner. John appreciates the way Mary seems to be able to control events and surroundings, while Mary envies the easy manner in which John accepts, and takes advantage of, whatever life has to offer. This brings balance to your relationship.

John, your three in this part of the chart is often compared to the sun: you are warming and comforting to everyone, inspiring and uplifting to all. Mary, the number nine you carry is the most idealistic and self-sacrificing number. Like the three, it offers its love freely and generously.

Although they are both loving, generous and worldly numbers, they can never forget for a moment that they are at the center of whatever they dispense.

So, they can sometimes conflict, in particular when both are vying for the same limelight. In such circumstances, they are like politicians in an election run-off. Even if, privately, they respect and like each other, they will try to take away the attention and spotlight from their partners. They can become very competitive, in which case, just like politicians, they will do anything to win, even start throwing dirt at each other if they feel justified.

But that is pretty much the only area where the three and the nine combination may encounter problems. This is, therefore, where you, John and Mary, will have to be careful. Don’t become competitive. Don’t feel you have to put down your partner in order to elevate yourself. Instead, if you find that in social situations you compete with each other, take an honest look at yourself and acknowledge it. In essence, this number combination shows great compatibility in this aspect of the chart. Avoid competition and instead invest in building the caring, romantic, life-long unity that comes so natural to you.

4  & 4  Compatibility (and vice versa)

John and Mary, you both have a four in this part of the chart, indicating a relationship that is either excellent or extremely stressful. There is not much room in the middle.

Your lifestyle requirements are probably very similar. You both like a certain amount of predictability and routine in your lives. That does not mean you don't like to be surprised every once in a while, but you like your daily routines to be firmly established and, preferably, not interrupted.

The success of your relationship relies largely on how compatible your daily routines are. The details are important because both of you tend to get quickly irritated when your carefully established daily routines are disturbed. It is important that you respect each other’s needs and habits. Even if other numbers in your charts point to a certain amount of flexibility and adaptability, you both have a tendency to, at least in some areas of your life, create an environment that is finely tuned and designed to accommodate your daily physical, mental and spiritual needs.

Even aside from your compatibility, you should arrange for yourself a secure, well-organized and predictable lifestyle. You both need a solid foundation to be able to face your daily challenges and opportunities. Unless your daily routines are compatible, it will be impossible for you to sustain this relationship without making some adjustments. Don't attempt to sacrifice part or all of your needs and desires to accommodate your partner. It will work only for the short term. Arrange a more separate routine, instead. There is nothing wrong with two partners living a small part of their daily life without much interaction. It is better than trying to adjust to each other, thereby creating small irritations and minor annoyances that, over time, turn into growing sources of anger.

John and Mary, you are both reliable, dependable people. You honor your promises, which is a powerful ally in your relationship, since it is important for Mary to be able to rely on John, and vice versa.

However, if taken too far, your grounded, practical nature can also create a somewhat rigid lifestyle that will most likely lead to frustration and gradual alienation from friends and family members. Lacking tolerance and open-minded acceptance of other people's lifestyles can put a stranglehold on your social life and, indirectly, a strain on your relationship.

Therefore, as you may have realized by now, the keywords to your success and to a pleasant relationship are tolerance and flexibility.

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