Numerology Course - page 47.
RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY AND NUMEROLOGY.
6 & 9 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, all numbers dividable by three have several things in common. First and foremost, all these numbers respond to the physical, emotional and spiritual needs of others. In the case of a six, this is expressed mainly towards those in the immediate circle: family and friends. In the case of the nine, it is directed more towards people at large - pretty much all of mankind.
When a six and a nine are found between romantic partners in this part of the chart, compatibility is very good. Both of you, John and Mary, are self-sacrificing, giving and caring people. John is more practical, Mary more idealistic, but your motivations are similar.
Another aspect you have in common is your creativity and your eye for beauty, which, contrary to what might be expected, is pretty often a source of trouble for the six-and-nine combination. John and Mary, sometimes you will see eye to eye when it comes to decorating, but often you won’t. And since you are both opinionated in this matter, in order to prevent unnecessary arguments, what you should do is give and take a little, something you are both quite capable of doing.
Another talent or trait you share is a sense of justice. The six and the nine are both strongly affected by a sense of right and wrong that can be very powerful - sometimes to the extent that they get involved in politics or become activists. Unless you happen to be on opposite ends of the political spectrum, this trait can further strengthen your bond.
The six and the nine, John and Mary, are highly compatible. However, there are some areas where you may find yourself clashing if certain negative traits are allowed to grow. Although this is not common, a warning might be in place.
The nine, Mary, with its idealistic and self-sacrificing nature, can also be arrogant and self-righteous. Recognizing the relative value of one’s concepts and ideas is not a strong point with the nine. Mary, with your innate sense of justice, you may have recognized a tendency in yourself to put down those who don’t see things the same way as you do. Especially when combined with strong religious dogmas, the nine can become a negative influence on others, sometimes ruining a relationship - even with the most devoted partner. If you have found yourself in that corner, Mary, you would do well to realize that what we believe and what we think, is just that, a thought, a concept, the truth as we see it. Always keep in mind that our perspective, no matter how enlightened, is still limited. Knowing that, we will be able to be compassionate and tolerant towards others. The nine, as you have read in the previous chapters, is the least prejudiced of all numbers, but as with all human traits, its dark side tends to be the direct opposite of the light side.
Although the most loving of all numbers, John’s six has a dark side as well, and a dark side that can be nasty indeed. The six can become intolerant and angry, often without a clear cause. The irritation and anger seem just to sit there, inside, waiting for an opportunity to break out, without rhyme or reason.
John and Mary, the negative sides of either the six or the nine are rarely displayed, but you will need to watch out for them in order to prevent them from spoiling what is most certainly one of the best number combinations around.
7 & 7 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, yours is a beautiful combination, with great potential for spiritual growth for both partners. You are people who take life and life’s mysteries serious. Your strong intellectual and spiritual bond makes you thrive on each other’s mental powers.
The relationship between two seven’s may start in the heart, but it quickly moves to the soul and the term “soul mates” often applies to people who have the seven in common in this part of the chart.
Poets at heart - even if you have never written a poem in your life - you understand intuitively that your bond with each other is spiritual in nature and more valuable to you than anything else in the world. You grow together, without the need to constantly be together. You communicate in half sentences and you often find yourself thinking or expressing the exact same thing your partner was just getting ready to say.
John and Mary, if your relationship is moving towards maturity, you are likely to be, as they say, connected at the hip. Having said all that, there are also some things you need to watch for not to spoil such a beautiful relationship. The seven excels at making mountains out of molehills. No other number can, at times, become as stubborn and unforgiving when it comes to small matters. In extreme cases, the seven can become small-minded. even neurotic. While rare, a tendency to let some minor discordance become a major disagreement does exist. What is interesting though is that, when that happens, it is almost always over something minor because, when it comes to major issues, the seven is too intelligent to narrow the mind to a small picture. For example, the same person who can lead a study and discussion group with great perspective and openness of mind to even the most outrageous ideas can also turn into a hair splitter when it comes to small household issues.
John and Mary, there is one issue you should be particularly aware of since it has been known to break apart this kind of otherwise excellent number combination. You both experience a strong, highly imaginative inner life. As a consequence, you need time to be alone, you need your own space, your own private domain. When your living space is too small or when your hectic lives, always surrounded by other people, makes this impossible, you will find that this need for quiet personal space slowly starts to dominate everything else in your life. That is why it is not uncommon for someone with a seven in this part of the chart, to one day just up and leave a promising career and a wonderful family. It is up to you not to let this anxiety, this need for space and peace become overwhelming. When you realize this is the ongoing process in your life, you need to answer to the call in a responsible and timely manner. It is much better to take a four-week vacation than to keep going for another year or two, just to reach a point where leaving permanently is the only option left.
7 & 8 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this combination shows that your relationship is based on other numbers in your chart rather than the seven and the eight, which usually neither attract each other nor are naturally compatible in romantic relationships. The notion that opposites attract does not hold true for the seven and the eight.
That does not mean that you do not live a compatible relationship, but simply that other numbers in your chart rather than the seven and the eight are at the source of your mutual attraction.
With the seven and eight in this location in your charts, however, there could be some major differences that may, at times, cause problems.
You have different sets of priorities. This aspect of the chart reveals that Mary has a strong drive for financial success and security. For John, spiritual and intellectual growth is a higher priority. Mary understands intuitively the balance between the material and the spiritual, and it is this intuitive understanding that makes it possible for Mary to excel at business, marketing, or sales.
John, in turn, may well have an in-born aversion against everything related to business, which John may even view as unworthy of attention.
John likes to discuss all kinds of political, philosophical, or spiritual matters, with a preference for the abstract - issues that usually seem boring to Mary. Mary prefers the practical, down-to-earth approach that focuses on results, on the bottom line.
Similarly, you may find yourselves at opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to likes and dislikes, from movies to books, to travel arrangements, to housing, decorating, art, and so forth. For example, John might enjoy life in a rather isolate, cozy country home, while Mary might derive pleasure from living in a futuristic loft in a great metropolis. The friends you attract are also very different, and so are your social needs. The seven in John’s chart points to quiet conversations rather than loud parties. Mary needs the occasional experience of abundant noise and interaction with others.
As you can see, the lack of compatibility between the seven and the eight have nothing to do with the heart, but everything with the experience of daily life, the practical matters - where to live, how to decorate the house, the friends you choose, and so forth. This can all be overcome by allowing each other a lot of space and freedom in the way you live your life. Mary has to make peace, not to condemn John’s choice of friends, career, and even the way John deals with money. On the other hand, John should respect the way Mary focuses on practical goals and results. Mary’s drive for success and financial growth are natural parts of Mary’s make-up and necessary ingredients for happiness.
7 & 9 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, the seven and the nine usually get along fine, as long as too much interaction is not required. Although compatible in some areas, they are not that interested in each other’s issues. If you imagine the seven and the nine as two archetypes forced to spend some time together in a social event, you might see them politely chatting about superficial stuff for a couple of minutes, then lapse into extended silence. However, there is no dislike, the issue here is simply a lack of interest.
John and Mary, although the numbers in this part of your charts add no particular excitement and energy to your relationship, on the plus side we find that they rarely cause any kind of discordance.
Religion is one of the few areas where the seven and the nine tend to be incompatible. Mary thrives on faith and has the intuitive understanding that all things are in balance. This understanding is also the reason why Mary may occasionally experience completely unexpected financial windfalls in the form of an inheritance or some other stroke of luck. John, on the other hand, needs to be able to recognize logic and does not accept anything at face value. John questions everything and religious belief, at least as reflected by the seven in this part of the chart, is alien to John’s intellectual quest for understanding. Sometimes, this can turn John into a skeptic, even cynical, which goes against the faith of the nine.
Your completely different taste may well generate other areas of conflict. John might enjoy life in a great metropolis, while a cozy chalet up on a hill in the countryside would be like Paradise for Mary. But one thing is for sure: when is comes to deciding colors and objects for your home, the nine is unquestionably better suited.
8 & 8 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, the fact that you both have an eight in this part of the chart puts you in a position where you are well suited to support each other’s endeavors, as well as start something together. You are both visionaries with imagination and a talent for business. However, you are also both driven to be in charge, and you don’t like to surrender control to someone else. Because of this, you may find yourselves competing against each other at times. That should be avoided because, in a relationship, competition can turn into jealousy and anger. As long as you direct your strongly competitive natures against other forces, you have a good chance of a long and happy relationship, quite possibly financially prosperous as well.
The eight is a good number for business, but its tendency to risk everything in the pursuit of a dream may bring about either enormous success or total failure. No other number causes a financial roller-coaster life like the eight. You will need to keep an eye on each other in order to prevent excessive risk.
John and Mary, the biggest danger in this combination is poverty. To be financially strapped will negatively impact on all other areas of your life, including romance. It is important that you follow your heart and your intuition in the pursuit of success - that is the nature of the eight - but it is equally important that you keep enough of your assets out of risk in order to avoid serious problems. John and Mary, considerable financial problems will almost certainly ruin your relationship.
You both understand the need for authority in life, particularly when it comes to raising children. You may have a tendency to be stricter and more controlling than most parents and this, too, can become a source of trouble. Families in which both parents have eights in this part of the chart tend to create environments wherein the children are given everything they need, including plenty of love, but that will come accompanied by too much control, and children will certainly rebel. You may realize that you have been under the illusion that you can form and shape your children according to your expectations, a guaranteed recipe for disappointment. Relax. Your children will grow up fine even if their dreams and goals are completely different from yours.
8 & 9 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this part of the chart reveals two numbers at completely opposite ends of the spectrum, which have nothing in common and are not considered compatible. However, they are often strongly attracted to each other; an attraction that lasts and forms the foundation for a relationship that can remain interesting and fresh for many years, because there is always something new to discover in each other.
A go-getter with big dreams and expectations, John has a good chance to turn some of those dreams into reality because John is highly motivated and willing to put forth enormous effort to reach a goal. Mary is equally focused but driven by completely different priorities and motives. In fact, as a rule of thumb, the eight in John’s chart reveals a need to work and direct energy towards accumulating wealth and power. This is the nature of the eight, and therefore healthy and necessary. The nine, as found in Mary’s chart, should be motivated by the work and the way it affects the lives of others, never by financial gain or any other form of worldly success. A nine will never find happiness or achieve success when motivated by worldly desires. Rather, it will find personal reward and tremendous success when driven by humanitarian motives. As you can see, your priorities are as different as night and day, yet both are as they should be.
Many times you will find yourselves at opposite sides of a discussion. You rarely agree when it comes to practical matters. You will need to recognize and respect the big difference between the two of you. If you take each other for granted, and start to feel you can predict and control your partner, your relationship will certainly break down. The keyword in this relationship is respect. As long as you respect each other, disagreements - of which there will probably be plenty - will not be able to weaken the foundation of your relationship.
9 & 9 Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this combination often creates a partnership that goes well beyond romance. Both idealists, you are sufficiently focused and have enough clarity of purpose to devote your life to a single goal, paying little or no attention to the monetary aspect. Contrary to what one might expect, this often results in financial prosperity, albeit not until somewhat later in life.
Most likely, John and Mary, recognition of similar souls was responsible for the initial attraction between you. Endless conversations that were mutually inspiring helped you realize that your dreams were attainable and that you needed and wanted the company of each other. The bond is strong and will not weaken over time, since you thrive on each other’s experiences. The compatibility is powerful and strengthens each of you as individuals.
You may find yourselves choosing almost identical careers, perhaps even within the same organization or institution. All these similarities make others see you as an unbreakable couple, the kind of bond that often exists between brothers and sisters.
However, some pitfalls may exist, even in this extremely compatible combination.
John and Mary, in extreme cases, the number nine shows a tendency to believe in ideals to such an extent that it turns into an obsession. Self-righteousness, narrow-minded moral values, and religious fanaticism are not uncommon, nor are arrogance, pride, and a superficial confidence. That explains the fact that the number nine is often found among political and religious extremists. Excessive belief in your ideals may cause problems to your relationship. It is important for both of you to remain open to other people’s ideas, to respect their different opinions, and to remain humble within yourselves.
John and Mary, the only real danger in a relationship between the nine’s found in this part of the chart appears when either or both of you lose your ability for self-criticism and self-reflection. It is essential to keep in mind that even in idealism, moderation is required - in fact, it is the keyword to safeguarding this otherwise excellent number combination.
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