Numerology Course - page 48.
CYCLES IN RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY.
Compatibility is as important with the cycles as it is with character traits. It is possible for a relationship between two people with otherwise very compatible charts to break down as a result of encountering one or more incompatible cycles. However, it is much easier to overcome or avoid possible pitfalls resulting from incompatible cycles than from incompatible personality traits.
Relationship compatibility of Personal Year or Month cycles can have a powerful effect. But keep in mind: the cycle is short. So, if you run into turmoil, it helps to remember that it is in the nature of a cycle to be only temporary.
Cycles compatibility is analyzed similar to the way we look at numbers in the personality profile.
1 & 1 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this period promises to be one of new beginnings, new directions, of discovery of your own selves. In other words, it will be an awakening to new dreams and goals. It is, therefore, an exciting time, full of new energy, a new direction and new priorities.
It will also bring new energy to the relationship. Quite possibly, you will feel a different level of maturity within the relationship, which will be stronger, more secure, and more stable.
John and Mary, a disruption – at least a temporary one – is common in the beginning of a new cycle. The changes both of you underwent will now require adjustments to the relationship. Communicating; sharing your feelings, your questions, your doubts, is now more important than ever. You may want to spend some time together, away from the daily routines. Devote quality time to each other so as to let the new changes be absorbed and to gain an understanding of your partner’s changed priorities and goals. If you don’t allow yourselves that opportunity, you will feel as if you had been separated for some time and then had to discover each other again.
John and Mary, this will probably be a good period for both of you. You will be more confident and capable of handling any obstacles as well as taking advantage of opportunities.
1 & 2 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John, you are entering a period of renewal that brings in new energy as well as a change of direction in your personal life and in your career. You feel motivated and aggressive, perhaps even impatient - nothing moves fast enough for you. Mary, on the other hand, is slowing down somewhat, more concerned about looking for ways to improve relationships with other people. For Mary, this is a time of networking, finding resources, and aligning with others, a time during which emotions and feelings are more important than usual, and Mary may well be a bit more vulnerable in that respect.
These cycles are compatible in most ways and they support each other. John will be the engine of change and progress, while Mary will steer and redirect. However, John will have to be sensitive and careful and not expect Mary to be as motivated and driven. In turn, Mary needs to avoid making mountains out of molehills or letting emotions get the better of common sense. John may also have to accept the fact that Mary is a bit more demanding than usual.
1 & 3 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, not only is this one of the most compatible cycles but it also shows that your cycles are usually compatible in nature. A gap of two will always be maintained, which, as a rule of thumb, is a good sign. Next time, your cycles will be two and four, the period after that three and five, and so forth.
For this period, John, you are like someone who just awoke from a long rest, had a cup of coffee, and are now rearing to go. Your energy level is high. You feel strong and capable and don’t want to be held back by anyone or anything. Mary also experiences a dynamic time, but with less focus and more play. Mary’s energy is more directed towards creativity, self-expression and relaxation.
The only possible discordance with this combination of cycles usually lies in John’s perception of Mary’s behavior as lacking responsibility. Mary is not in the mood to take anything very serious, which may become a source of irritation for John. John, you need to accept the fact that this period represents somewhat of a break – as matter of fact, a necessary break - for Mary.
1 & 4 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, as a rule of thumb, the one-and-four combination, when found in this part of the progressive chart, is not compatible. Although both cycles represent strong drive and motivation, as well as a need to apply and put forth effort, they express it very differently. John, you are motivated in large part by enthusiasm, dreams, hope and a can-do attitude. Mary, your drive is born from frustration and the feeling that you need to break out of a shell that has for too long limited and restricted you. Your frustration may become worse before it gets better, Mary, and your challenge is not to let it vent itself towards the people you love and care for. The four cycle is never an easy one, but, in the end, it invariably brings progress and a breakthrough of some kind. So, Mary, have faith in that and just keep going.
John, don’t get impatient with Mary’s doubts and frustration. Remember that this is a time of opportunity for you, and that is what you should go for. Just focus on your goals.
1 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
This is a highly compatible combination, John and Mary. John is at the brink of a new direction where signs of opportunity and progress are very clear. Mary also faces a dynamic time, but a period in which little goes according to plan. If you had to draw a schematic of these cycles, the one cycle as found in John’s chart would probably show a straight line throughout the period, perhaps a few bends and curves, but all clearly going in one direction. As in Mary’s schematic, the five cycle would be represented by nothing but curves and bends alongside very few straight lines. So, the conclusion is: the whole cycle is about change and movement. John and Mary, for both of you this is a time in which you may have less opportunity – and even less desire - to pay a lot of attention to each other. You would do well accepting that from the beginning so neither of you will feel left out and ignored. You are both going to have your hands full and need to apply yourself to your own needs and desires. For Mary, the keyword is discipline. Try to stay focused but be flexible at the same time. For John, the keyword is drive. Take advantage of your energy and do your best to reach your goals. It sounds like a contradiction, but if you both apply yourself to your own needs, you will be doing each other a favor and the chances of disrupting your relationship will be smaller. Rest assured, you will be spending lots of time together next cycle, when the two and the six rule.
1 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
Your commitment to each other will be tested during this time, when outside influences may be affecting you in a negative way. You will need to trust and to rely on each other. It is quite likely that jealousy will rear its ugly head and it is good to understand right away that blame is not the answer. Turmoil will be around and the relationship will lack stability. This is one of the most difficult and challenging combinations, and it is important to remember that your greatest strength is found in your faith in each other. While going through stages of doubt and insecurity, Mary may, at the same time, be the target of too much attention by someone else. In the meantime, John will tend to be very focused on goals and career, and may be somewhat oblivious to the signals that would otherwise warn John to start paying attention to Mary. For both of you, the answer lies in a conscious effort to be as much a part in your partner’s life as possible, even if that proves to be somewhat inconvenient.
There is also a strong possibility of a birth in the family. This combination of cycles often represents the birth of a child. If that is the case, everything changes and the relationship becomes much stronger.
1 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
The challenge in the relationship between these two cycles is to maintain the feeling of belonging. There are big differences between the way the one cycle and the seven cycles affect you, John and Mary, but one thing they have in common is that both cycles increase the awareness of independence and individuality. In other words, John and Mary, both of you will kind of feel your selves distancing from the relationship, which is not per se bad. In fact, it may add to the longevity of your relationship. However, if your expectations are that you will spend a lot of time together, share everything, and that nothing will change, your expectations will not be met.
The wise thing to do is to accept the fact that you will move apart somewhat during this period. It is temporary and necessary for your personal growth.
John, you should focus on your career and goals. For Mary, the focus is more inward, towards spiritual and mental growth. Mary is going through a period of self-discovery and needs time alone. John has opportunities for progress and needs to take advantage of that. As you can see, your individual needs demand that you pay less attention to your partner and more to your selves. This may make you feel as if the relationship were weakening. That is not the case, unless you turn it into an issue. If you simply accept the fact that your partner’s attention is focused elsewhere, you will find that this period offers growth to both of you as individuals, and does not do that at the cost of the relationship.
1 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
The one and eight is an excellent combination to inspire both of you to get busy. John is pushing towards goals and Mary is discovering goals. The two of you are treading on a path of progress and financial improvement, although there may be some danger involved for Mary, who should be very careful and suspicious of any get-rich-quick schemes.
The gap between the cycles is considerable and has to do with your different spiritual paths. This will become particularly clear during this period and may cause some problems in the relationship. Much of it is superficial and a helpful bit of advice is to just ignore it. Sometimes, in order to maintain a healthy, strong relationship, you need to talk about your differences. There are instances though, when it is better to just avoid the subject and accept the fact that you love each other but are two different people with different experiences. This is a time to ignore the differences and just enjoy each other’s company.
Both of you, John and Mary, are going through cycles that strengthen your position on the material plane, and during their span, your best approach is to focus on that. As to your intellectual and spiritual differences, you will be better off if you don’t disturb sleeping dogs.
1 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
Once every nine years, John and Mary, your relationship will go through a particularly difficult time, a time when only your commitment to your heart will be able to save your relationship. This is such a time. You will experience turmoil, major disagreements, and arguments intense enough that they will make you feel that your partner is no longer the nice person you once knew. This is due to a shift in the cycles that causes an otherwise comfortable and compatible gap of one - in place for eight years - to suddenly multiply and, almost overnight, increase eight-fold for this one cycle. In addition, this is an emotionally vulnerable time for Mary, exactly when John is less sensitive than usual.
There are few, if any, combinations of cycles as difficult and challenging as this one, but with some conscious effort and a dedication to your heart, the relationship will survive and, because of it, become stronger.
For John, the most important piece of advice is to give Mary plenty of attention, be very sensitive to mood swings, and provide support, even if you feel that Mary is overly emotional. For Mary, the best advice is not to take emotions too seriously. As you have read in the description of your nine-year cycle, you are going through a lot of changes, which require of surrender and acceptance, giving rise to a tendency to get melodramatic and emotional.
Only your hearts can save the day. So, don’t listen to your minds. No matter how much sense the mind seems to make, it doesn’t have anywhere near the understanding that the heart carries.
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