Numerology Course - page 49.
CYCLES IN RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY.
2 & 2 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time when emotions rule the day. For both of you. After the last cycle’s dynamic energy and the changes you both experienced, this cycle slows things down a bit. Both of you will meet people who will play crucial roles and help you further your goals. Keep your eyes open. You will receive support in all areas of your life.
It is between the two of you that some changes take place on a deeper level. John and Mary, you are both more vulnerable and sensitive to anything related to the heart. Whereas a small argument might have made barely a dent in your relationship before this cycle, a similar minor confrontation could easily become a major problem this cycle. You will have to be more sensitive to each other; pay attention and take advantage of every opportunity to show each other the love you feel.
Over the course of this cycle, you will find that your love for each other has strengthened and matured, even if some emotional outbursts occasionally caused some turmoil. But this will only be the case as long as you are not afraid to show your love as well as your need for your partner’s attention.
The saying that the home is where the heart is, is particularly true during this cycle. You need to be together as much as possible.
2 & 3 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John is experiencing a time when emotions are felt stronger than usual and with more impact. It is as if a protective layer has been stripped, leaving John more vulnerable than usual. At the same time, Mary is experiencing a time of inspiration, enthusiasm, and creativity; a light-hearted time when emotions tend to have less impact than they usually do. Mary feels quite confident and won’t dwell on emotions as much as during other times. John, however, feels them strongly. Often, this translates to mood swings and moments of emotional insecurity and confusion on John’s part, contrary to Mary who is less sensitive and intuitive.
The result can be confusion and misunderstandings. Mary doesn’t understand why John is getting so upset about some minor argument, while John wonders why Mary seems so unattached and distracted, almost as if John’s feelings don’t matter. This is a time, Mary, to pay close attention to John and the relationship you have together. For John, it is important not to dwell on emotions. Feelings of neglect are unwarranted, and if Mary seems a bit caught up in other things, that’s because Mary feels secure and comfortable enough in the relationship to focus on creative endeavors, social events and people outside the relationship.
2 & 4 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
For John, a time of growth as a result of networking, meeting people in relation to work or business, and consolidating plans. For Mary, a time of hard work, focus, and probably a fair amount of frustration. For both of you, John and Mary, the focal point should be career, work, your plans, your future.
The relationship is not much of an issue. It is possible that you will experience times when you don’t seem to communicate much or share as much time together as usual. You may even feel that you are pulling away from each other. Don’t worry. It is simply a matter of not being able to be in two places at the same time.
This, however, is only one side of the coin. On a more subtle plane, it is almost as if the opposite takes place. Because for Mary this is also a time of finding stability and comfort. Of placing things where they belong and establishing boundaries and territories. While for John the heart rules and emotions are strongly felt and quickly displayed. This means that you complement each other. While Mary works on the practical aspects of your relationship, John energizes the relationship on a deeper level. You could say that during this time, Mary works on the home and John works on the heart.
2 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, the 2 and the 5 get along fine in many ways; they happily play together, love together, and enjoy each others company. At least as long as everything is in harmony. However, the moment they hit a bump in the road, the results can be disastrous.
Therefore, the trick is to avoid bumps in the road as much as possible. Strange as it sounds, this is a good time to stay on the surface, not dig too deep.
For John, the enhanced emotional vulnerability typical of a 2 cycle opens the door to possible negative feelings that are out of proportion with what is really going on. A minor criticism can become a major source of discontent for John. At the same time, Mary is not as aware as usual; more impulsive, and quicker to say something without much consideration for the feelings of others. Mary’s mind is more active and less restrained. It is important for both of you to take each others remarks, especially those spoken in the heat of the moment, with a big dose of salt. Neither one of you is particularly good at expressing yourself accurately, or true to your real nature, during this time. Mary is too quick and impulsive, John is too sensitive and emotional. It will help you to keep this in mind and allow each other some leeway during this time.
2 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
No two cycles are so completely involved with the heart as the 2 and the 6. John and Mary, this is a combination of cycles that has only two possible outcomes. Simply put it is either very good or very bad. There is not much room in the middle.
You will almost certainly experience some major disagreements. It is in how you handle them that makes all the difference. And it is the strength of your love, the depth of your feelings, that influences the way you respond. Therefore, you can see this combination of cycles, John and Mary, as a kind of spiritual and emotional. It is important to realize that the test takes place on the level of the heart and anything that seems to be the cause of a disagreement has only a superficial meaning. In fact, the reasons are not important at all. Anything will do. Perhaps one of you wants to move, the other wants to stay. Or one wants to take an older relative into the house, the other doesn’t. One wants children, the other doesn’t. The reason is never the cause.
Remember this: The key ingredients needed to prevent your relationship from breaking down are loyalty, commitment, and honesty.
2 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John, this is not a time to pay too much attention or attach much value to your emotional ups and downs. This is a time for you to swallow your pride, ignore any possible hurts, and to focus on what you want. During this time, you may occasionally feel that Mary is a bit distant and seems to live in a world that doesn’t include you. In a way, this is true. Mary is going through a time of self-reflection, a time of spiritual wondering. For Mary, this is a time when life itself demands a lot of attention.
John, your best response is to focus on your own life. Quite different from Mary, who is consciously or sub-consciously, involved on a deep level with the mystery of life and all its manifestations, John should be focused on the practical side of living; career, the home, finances, and so forth. If you both feel that each of you is more involved in yourself than in each other, take heart in the fact that this is not per se a bad thing. You play different roles right now and should allow each other the space and freedom to do that. John and Mary, it is only when you try to force your partner to move into your world, that the relationship might get damaged. Otherwise, the relationship is actually quite safe since neither one of you has any desire to rock the boat.
2 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a difficult combination of cycles. Your priorities are not aligned. For John, the relationship and all matters of the heart are important at this time. Emotional turmoil is right around the corner. And it won’t take much to turn that corner. More sensitive than usual and vulnerable to criticism, perceived neglect, and lack of attention, John may be quite demanding in that regard.
For Mary, the relationship takes second, or perhaps third place at this time. Mary’s focal point is everything around the relationship. From friends to career, and from family to finances, Mary wants to heal and improve everything that surrounds and sustains the relationship, but in the process may not pay much attention to you, John.
In addition, Mary may feel that John does not carry enough weight, when in fact John’s energies are simply directed elsewhere. As you can see, this combination of cycles offers opportunities galore for misunderstandings and disagreements. It is likely that you will experience some rough spots, but it is also likely that at the end of this period you have both brought something to the relationship; Mary will manage to make improvements in areas outside the relationship while John will strengthen the relationship on a deeper level.
2 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time when you will be able to recognize whether the relationship is founded on real substance. You are both experiencing a time when emotional forces seem to rule. John is somewhat self-absorbed and emotional about pretty much everything. Vulnerable and sensitive, John is also more aware and finely tuned to recognize what is real and what is not. In order for the heart to see more clearly, some protective layers have to be dismantled. This is exactly what is going on with John in regards to the relationship. While the heart is seeking truth and clarity, it is also more exposed and vulnerable.
For Mary, a different but no less emotionally charged period is reflected in the nine. Mary is also searching for answers, but the question is not so much connected to the relationship as to Mary, the human being. Mary is facing a crossroads and not sure about which way to turn.
This is a very important time for Mary, a time during which Mary experiences ups and downs like a roller coaster. A time of growth and choice.
John and Mary, you are two people going through different emotional and spiritual changes. You will be able to support each other only in the most basic sense; you can give each other love.
If the relationship has real substance, you will get through this time with flying colors. If the relationship does not have real substance, you will both know that by the end of this period.
3 & 3 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a period during which you will be able to enjoy each other’s company, share ideas, and experience relatively little stress in most areas of your life.
The keyword is relative. Everything just seems to be easier to handle and problems don’t weigh down on you as much as they might in other times. As always, though, there is another side to the coin. This is a time when you are less focused and more scattered, a typical side effect of creativity. If you have set specific goals, you may find your ability to concentrate and work in a disciplined manner a bit more challenging than usual.
Your relationship will strengthen and deepen during this time. You connect easily and can communicate better than usual.
The only drawback of this combination of cycles is that both of you will also attract attention from other people. This may be tempting to either or both of you and can give cause to jealousy. If that does happen, remember what is important to you and don’t let short-term pleasures spoil your future.
3 & 4 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time when your cycles are pushing you in opposite directions. Actually, this is often the case in your relationship and does not per se reflect a lack of compatibility. For John, this is a time to relax and smell the roses, while Mary needs to keep focused and maintain a high level of effort. It is important that you don’t try to change each other’s natural inclination to follow the demands of your respective cycles. Mary needs to accept the fact that John is not as disciplined and ambitious as usual, while John should not try to talk Mary into taking it easy.
Contrary to what one might expect, as a rule of thumb, cycles with a gap of one point, such as three and four or four and five, although moving in different directions, are not per se incompatible. In fact, they often complement each other. Only when couples try too hard to influence each other’s lives do these cycles cause stress and unhappiness.
John should be allowed to back off a little from the daily grind, while Mary should be supported and encouraged throughout this rather demanding period.
3 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
This is one of the most compatible combinations of cycles, John and Mary. You are both experiencing a time of enhanced energy and dynamic growth.
Within the contexts of your relationship, you are able to communicate well, enjoy each other’s company, and play off each other’s energy. Lower blood pressure and less stress bring more flexibility to the body and to the mind, which explains why this is considered a cycle of healing.
There is little negative to say about this combination of cycles, except for the inherit danger of having too much fun. Quite often, the three as well as the five draw elements of danger in their search for new and exciting experiences, which does not go unnoticed to those around you. You will have to be careful not to draw into your circle people whose influence is less than desirable.
3 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time of strong feelings for both of you. Although inspired by different motives, you are drawn to each other and feel closer than usual. For John, this is in part the result of seeing more clearly the importance of everything not related to career or finances: family, friends, social activities, and so forth. For Mary, the driving force right now is simply the heart. For both of you, the priorities shift somewhat towards the joy of living, towards things away from the daily grind.
A possible danger lies in the fact that Mary needs more attention than usual during this time, while John requires less attention and would rather devote more time to people and activities outside the relationship.
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