Numerology Course - page 50.
CYCLES IN RELATIONSHIP COMPATIBILITY.
3 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
Two very different and completely opposite cycles are affecting your lives right now, John and Mary. For John, everything lightens up like a sunny day after a period of overcast skies, while for Mary this is a more serious time, a time of self-awareness and self-discovery. Your moods are different and you may find it hard to communicate clearly. John may become frustrated with Mary and vice versa. John is in a light-hearted, optimistic cycle while Mary is serious and perhaps even moody and pessimistic.
This difference can be offset by paying attention to each other’s needs, in particular on the physical plane. Express your love for each other as much as you can in the most basic forms known to man, reach out and be there for each other.
It is also important for John to understand that the quiet, withdrawn mood that seems to dominate Mary is only temporary and represents a kind of healing. The soul is asking for attention and Mary is just responding. Sometimes, this combination of cycles causes a breakdown in a relationship. If you feel that you are approaching the danger zone within your relationship, John and Mary, you will be able to overcome this by sharing your feelings as honestly as possible. And remember, you are both, but Mary in particular, strongly affected by this cycle. Remember also, that cycles, by their very nature, are only temporary. Patience and tolerance are the keywords to get through this challenging period.
3 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
Creativity, optimism, and inspiration are the main ingredients in John’s cycle. Ambition, goals, and financial rewards are the components ruling Mary’s cycle. Although very different, these cycles are nonetheless compatible. They complement and inspire each other. John and Mary, this is not only a good combination of cycles as it relates to your relationship, but also on a more practical level.
You will be able to take care of long postponed projects, overcome some financial difficulties you have had, make repairs to the house, and so forth.
This is one of the best combinations to be shared by two people involved in a relationship. You relate easily, communicate well, and support each other’s endeavors.
There is, however, an area where there might be some discordance. John is inspired and active, but not focused on goals so much as on the activities themselves, while Mary is completely focused on the bottom line. As a result, Mary may feel John is irresponsible. John, on the other hand, may feel that Mary is all work and no play. Compromising and understanding that each cycle has its own opportunities will help you get the most out of this period.
3 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this combination of cycles is quite compatible and it often gives birth to new ideas and plans for the future. You are both experiencing a time of enhanced creativity. You may plan to remodel the house, buy new furniture, or otherwise change and improve the environment you share.
Mary, however, is also experiencing a challenging time of powerful emotions. Mary is on shaky ground and needs a stable environment as well as John’s support and confidence. John is more upbeat and optimistic than usual and can be a much-needed source of comfort for Mary. Although this does not look like an ideal situation to make changes such as planning a remodel or buying new furniture, it is in the making of such plans and the creative process that Mary’s need to feel secure is enforced.
John should be aware that Mary is not as grounded as usual right now and some patience may be prudent. For Mary, this is a time of choice and decisions - but on a deep, even subconscious level. Nothing is clear. Nothing is simple.
During this combination of cycles much depends on John’s ability to be a source of strength and comfort for Mary. John and Mary, the nine-cycle is always the most challenging time for anyone, while the three-cycle is considered one of the easiest and most pleasurable. For that reason, you are lucky to have this combination whereby John, with the three-cycle, can support Mary during the time the nine dominates.
4 & 4 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, you are going through a time during which both of you are focused on strengthening the foundation of your life. Your career, financial affairs, home and home improvements, as well as other practical aspects of your life are high priorities. While this cycle often represents a lot of progress, it can also be demanding. It can be a time of frustration because nothing moves fast enough or according to your expectations. It is this frustration coupled with a demanding schedule that can cause problems in the relationship.
The fact that you both experience the same cycles - and always will, since you are following parallel tracks - makes you see eye to eye whenever it comes to priorities and goals. Therefore, the cycles are by nature compatible. However, this also means that you may find yourself feeling frustrated at the same time, thus compounding each other’s frustration. If you do find yourself in that situation, you should be aware that it is more likely that outside influences, rather than each other, are causing you to be irritated and frustrated. With that in mind, you will be able to take a step back, talk about what bothers you, and alleviate each other’s negative feelings instead of making them worse.
4 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this is a time during which you are under very different influences. It is a time of focus, effort, and sometimes frustration and stagnation for John, and a time of change, excitement, and dynamic energy for Mary.
As a result, Mary is in a position to help John to keep moving forward and not get too frustrated by the demands of this cycle, and John will be able to function somewhat like an anchor for Mary. Mary can certainly use the stable influence of John during this hectic and unpredictable time.
The most positive effect of this combination of cycles is that their combined forces almost always deliver progress and decisiveness. By the end of this cycle, you will realize that you will have established new goals, and a clearer horizon will make it much easier for you to see where you want to go next.
A negative effect you should be aware of is that you may find yourselves moving in such different directions that, at times, you will feel like strangers. Share your feelings and ideas as much as possible and reach out to each other. Physical closeness and sharing things you both enjoy will help you keep connected on all other levels.
4 & 6 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, the combination of cycles you are now undergoing offers a number of opportunities for you to improve the quality of all aspects of your life. You complement each other very well. It is a time of shared effort with John focusing on the practical aspects and Mary on the heart and health of the relationship. John and Mary, your energies are in line and enhance all the good qualities found in the four and the six. You will experience progress as well as financial growth, and will also manage to play a larger role in the community around you. You may even find yourself combining your forces to reach common goals. Very few negative influences may come from this combination of cycles. Even a tendency for John to become irritated - perhaps even angry - a little quicker during a four cycle is easily lessened by Mary’s ability to reach out and comfort John.
4 & 7 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, partners often find themselves distancing from each other during the combination of cycles you are presently going through. You may find that this also applies to you. However, this is not a result of lessened interest in each other, but of the fact that your cycles are focused in different directions. For John, this is a time of grounding and dealing with mundane and practical matters, often experienced as frustrating and boring. For Mary, this is a time of inner search, daydreaming, and quiet contemplation, a time of doubts and questions, and a time of learning about the self. So, it is not difficult to see how the influence of your cycles can create some distance and a lack of communication.
Keep in mind that this is not per se a negative development, as long as you don’t try too hard to force yourself into your partner’s world.
4 & 8 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, this combination of cycles can be either very good or very bad. It provides no middle ground.
Metaphorically speaking, John feels like someone who has to struggle through mud wearing heavy boots - there is progress, but excruciatingly slow, and every step requires considerable effort. Mary, on the other hand, feels like everything is within arm’s reach. All that is needed to achieve a goal and get a reward is simply to reach out and grab it.
Together, these cycles either pull the best out of each other or enhance each other’s negative influences. Mary’s optimism and can-do attitude during this time can be for John like a red flag for a bull, while John’s frustration and total focus on matters at hand can work like a cold shower on Mary’s dynamic energy and optimism.
Or John’s efforts and dedication can be an inspiring influence to Mary, while Mary’s upbeat energy will certainly uplift John, alleviating much of John’s frustration and anxiety. To top it off, you will both be able to clearly recognize the effect you have on each other during this time. As a result, you will either feel love, gratitude, and appreciation for your partner, or anger and blame, depending on how you respond to each other’s needs.
The key to getting the best out of this combination of cycles is to be aware of your partner’s needs and state of mind, and not to get caught up in your own world to the extent that you don’t know what is going on with the person you have chosen to be with.
4 & 9 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
John and Mary, the four and the nine are not the most compatible of cycles. As a matter of fact, this combination often causes emotional turmoil within a relationship, in part because Mary is at the end of a series of cycles, a time when one’s feelings and emotions are always unpredictable. Mary needs to let go of the old and prepare for the new, and letting go invariably brings on powerful emotions. John, on the other hand, is experiencing a time during which there is little room for feelings or sensitivity of any kind. John’s focus is on practical matters: career, work, taking care of details, effort and discipline. John needs to see results and progress.
This is a time when Mary needs John to offer understanding and to show that you are walking the same road towards common goals. In contrast, John would rather see Mary getting on with the more mundane business at hand.
John and Mary, you must be conscious of the fact that you are going through very different stages and, at this time, the best advice for both of you is to try to be as close to each other as you can be. Take the effort to focus on your partner and not on yourself. Most importantly, get away from the daily grind and do things you enjoy doing together as often as you can manage: go to the movies or go dancing, or paint the town red if necessary.
5 & 5 Cycles Compatibility (and vice versa)
Strange as it may seem, this is a dangerous, but also possibly a very enjoyable time for both of you, John and Mary.
The five-cycle is notorious for throwing everything in disarray. For those who adapt easily and are not afraid of changes, this translates into a time of excitement, enthusiasm, and promise. For those who have a hard time going with the changes, this can be a time of anxiety, doubts and fear.
John may experience this as a great time full of opportunities, while Mary may feel that the whole world turned upside down leaving nothing but chaos. Or vice versa. While this is certainly an exaggeration, it illustrates how the same cycle can be experienced very differently by two people. It is also important to mention that you are both more impulsive and immediate in your responses. Keep in mind, that there is no better time to stick the proverbial foot in the mouth than during a five-cycle. John and Mary, you have to be careful not to let a misplaced remark or a minor misunderstanding escalate into a war of words. This is a time when it is very easy to transfer some of the same chaos you may experience on a material level to a deeper, more personal level. You don’t want to get in a position where you realize that your relationship has turned turbulent, with anger and blame flying back and forth, while at the same time recognizing that you can’t remember what caused this trouble to begin with. Communication is the key to experiencing the best that this combination of cycles has to offer.Continue
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